Not all individuals are at the same level of motivation when addressing alcohol and drug addiction. Our focus is to challenge individuals for a better understanding of the personal and relational consequences of their choices.
Alcohol and drug addiction affects the emotional, spiritual, and relational areas of life. Regardless of the substance or activity, addiction becomes a controlling force in the life of the individual and the family. Those impacted by addiction realize that it is often a “generational issue.” Our approach is a holistic one. We offer individual, group, and family support for those impacted by this devastating problem.
We will walk with you to find freedom from the bondage of addiction.
Pornography and sexual addiction are prevalent problems in society. It seems as though everywhere you turn, someone is losing their job, marriage and even their family due to pornography and sexual addiction.
Sexual addiction involves compulsive sexual thoughts and/or demonstrating compulsive sexual behavior that leads to shame, guilt and the destruction of families.
Sexual addiction and pornography are artificial ways to find true intimacy and connection apart from authentic intimate relationships. Addiction to pornography and sex is an inherently relational disorder.
One of the causes of sexual addiction is isolation. This struggle can look different in each individual, but essentially this means most people who struggle with this are disconnected relationally. Typically, they have few or no friends and are often described and known as “keeping to themselves.”
At HeartLife, we emphasize the value of building healthy friendships as an indispensable component of healing for those who struggle with sexual addiction.
Not only is isolation a key cause of sexual addiction, but guilt and shame are two key components that drive many into this destructive cycle. Guilt is represented by the idea “I have done something bad,” whereas shame is the idea “I am bad.” Guilt is an issue of “doing” and shame is an issue of “being.” Guilt is easier to deal with than shame. With shame, people feel defective at the core of their being.
People who struggle with sexual addiction often place shame as the essential issue that must be addressed, and we are here to help those who struggle.
Sexual addiction must be addressed in context of relationships in which we can be loved at the very core of our being.
The final issue that drives sexual sin is a failure to deal with relational pain in a healthy way. Many people, but men in particular, struggle with this issue and have difficulty appropriately expressing emotions like fear, anger, sadness or disappointment in healthy ways.
People who keep emotions to themselves, or feel unworthy or isolated are at risk. They use pornographic images to anesthetize the pain they are experiencing inside.
“The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.”
~ Psalm 34:17-19